D I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition

Unsurprisingly, it was among the first personal devices electrified, only falling behind the sewing machine, fan, tea kettle and toaster. I’d brought Eva along with me in the black silk carrying bag it comes with, and I tried to sneak the vibrator in before we started doing the deed. “Wait,” said Dave, “I want to see how this thing works.” Already, the vibrator was starting to get in the way of sexy time. I showed him the technique I had now mastered, and we proceeded to have sex. Instead of simply whipping Eva out in the bedroom, I thought it best to check in with Dave beforehand to see if he’d be cool with it.

For people with vaginas who can experience pleasure within the external and internal sex organ known as the clitoris, the G-spot is less one spot in particular and more a region of the body. “When people hear G-spot, they think of one exact spot on their body,” says Cassandra Corrado a sex education coach based in Sarasota, Florida. The idea of a “spot” also tends to imply that it’s a separate organ.

The result is a very intuitive user experience vibrator, as well as an impressively quiet one; as far as wand vibes go, the Wand 2 makes very little noise, and it’s easy to maneuver with one hand thanks to the bendy body. Finally, because this is a We-Vibe toy, its 10 intensity levels and 10 vibration patterns can also be accessed from the app for some long-distance play. These products are very small in size and have an oval shape similar to a bullet used in a gun. Most often, the bullet is attached to a control box with a thin wire. The bullet is designed to be inserted into the vagina and is used to stimulate the G-spot. Unlike mini vibrators with shafts, bullets cannot be used to simulate sexual intercourse.

The shorter, rounded piece of the Snail Vibe Curve acts as the external arm, Weiss explains, while the straight end can provide up to five inches of penetration. The coiled shape of the smaller arm allows it to stay in contact with your clit, even as you push and pull the toy, she says. Since the entire silicone snail is flexible, you can slide the longer end in just a little, or all the way—the “shell” part of the toy unfurls as you insert the toy deeper. In my opinion, this is an improvement over other rabbit vibes that have shorter arms that can’t reach your clit unless the other end is fully inside your vagina.

Luckily, there are tons of rechargeable options that are just as powerful and can stay juiced up for hours at a time. Neither of the above wand vibrators are fully waterproof , so if you’re looking for that particular feature, try the Satisfyer Wand-er Woman. You might be a vibrator connoisseur with a toy box full of goodies already or a beginner browsing your first sex toys, but all are welcome here. Not all vibes are all things to all people—but the We-Vibe Sync comes close. It can be a solo or couples vibe, provide clitoral and g-spot stimulation, and can be small enough to used hands-free. The artfully designed Temari Mizu emits vibrations from the top of the orb for intense external pleasure.

To figure out which one to buy, take a moment to consider what kind of pleasure you enjoy, as well as what kind of play you’d be interested in exploring. From there, peruse the different types of vibrators to determine which toy genre best fits your wants and needs. There might be an obvious winner, or a few toys you’re tempted to try. And it’s really no problem if you find yourself in the latter category—after all, you can always buy more than one. This Kandi Kisses lipstick-shaped vibrator looks just like your average tube of lipstick but is actually a secret toy with three adjustable settings. So sneaky you can throw it in your purse, just don’t confuse it with your actual makeup.

Customers find the massager extremely powerful and effective, particularly for leg pain, and appreciate how it helps relieve soreness and tension. The device provides good relaxation, with muscles feeling very relaxed after use, and customers praise its professional-grade build quality that lasts over a year. Customers find it easy to use and like its design, while opinions about weight are mixed, with some finding it good while others note it’s slightly heavy.

The Lelo LYLA 2 is a bullet vibrator that comes with a wireless remote. It’s pretty much the Cadillac of bullet vibrators if you’re into that sort of thing. This vibrating prostate massager is specifically designed to provide targeted stimulation to the prostate and perineum, giving you all the sensations you need to reach new heights of pleasure.

Also, consider where you’ll use the toy and who you’ll use it with (if anyone). Based on your preferences, additional features like waterproofing, app compatibility, remote control operation, and ergonomic handles might be worth considering. Between wands, bullets, palm vibes, and clit suckers, there are a ton of great toys out there.