Crave Vesper 2 Review: A Discreet Vibrator
“Find a setting you think is fun and use it on different parts of your body to see how it feels. Remember, there’s no ‘right’ way to pleasure yourself.” Solo sex not only helps you figure out what gives you pleasure but helps you feel more confident during partnered sex, which can lead to more fulfilling and healthy relationships. Dr. Lincoln adds that there’s no risk of sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy with masturbation. The Laya III’s C-shape allows it to cup your entire vulva hands-free (so you can focus on using those elsewhere). Pressure or friction in that area can be intensely satisfying,” says Shannon.
We’ve rounded up the best sex toys for couples, including remote control vibrators, anal toys, travel-friendly toys, and more toys that will make your next encounter extra-thrilling. Whether you use these sex toys for masturbation or partnered sex, the important thing is that you feel good and safe. “So much about women’s pleasure has to do with the context of what’s going on,” says Dr. Torrisi. “It’s important for women to feel safe with their partners and to reliably predict that a sexual encounter will be fun and pleasurable.” This genre of sex toy will always be GOATed to me, because the realistic design elements make them feel extra kinky and fun, especially if you’re bringing them into partner play (talk about a soft-launch threesome).
The soft Kanuka handcuffs come with a control cord and are perfect for “low-cutting” (that’s in-the-know speak for low friction) exploration, while the steel-capped rope allows couples to explore impact play. If you and/or your partner only have experience with clitoral orgasms, you might want to explore Lelo’s weighted vaginal beads, also known as Ben Wa balls. Who says rose petals should only be sprinkled romantically across your bed? The compact vibrator has seven suction settings and is waterproof, in case you want to use it in the shower or tub. Available in red or purple, it’s so pretty that you might want to leave it on your nightstand as some sassy home decor instead of tucking it away in a drawer. The Elemi’s quiet “gentle touch” vibration mode — one of 10 options — helps with the discretion factor.
This incredibly sophisticated device promised to take me on a journey of discovery, targeting not just one or two, but three erogenous zones (!) simultaneously. With its innovative SenSonic and DeepSonic technologies, I was eager to see if it could live up to the hype and deliver the mind-blowing orgasms it claimed. When pleasure product companies started making dildos and other toys shaped like tentacles, unicorn horns, candy canes vibrators, and even chess pieces, I was tickled.
It has plenty of features and moving parts to keep your pleasure levels at an absolute maximum. The rabbit ears stimulate your clitoris while the tip goes to work on your internal hot buttons. You’ll also want to make sure that you don’t use anything with an electrical current internally. That means that it can be used for stimulating the outside parts of the genitals, but not for penetration. Additionally, to avoid electrocution, you don’t want to use anything with an electrical current in the tub or other body of water. There are sex toys that are made to be waterproof, but household items?
These beginner-friendly sex toys are generally meant for clitoral stimulation, though some are meant for internal use, while others are meant for penises. Bring them on your next vacation for when you’re feeling adventurous in a place where no one knows you or keep things low-key by using them next time you’ve got a date night at home. When using your hands to masturbate, most people find using one or two fingers at a time to be the easiest starting place.
An extra wide mouth on the LELO Sila means this suction toy can travel to so many erogenous zones and caters to all clitoral sizes. Perfect for foreplay or solo play, it easily suctions over the entire clitoris and can even be used on your nipples. Whether you’re a jet setter, searching for the perfect after-dark honeymoon accessory or just don’t want something that screams “sex toy,” this shell-shaped toy is bound to be your new BFF.
After a few glasses of wine, I worked up the courage to do the asking. Of these three wands, the Doxy is the one that’s corded (though both Hitachi and Le Wand have corded options, too). While it almost seems archaic to have a wired toy, I see the appeal of using the Doxy. Hitachi’s vibration patterns range from a consistent vibration to a quick pulse to a rev-up-to-slow-down and repeat. The Doxy is the least expensive toy as it starts at just under $120, $15 less than Hitachi. One benefit of the Doxy , however, is that it’s highly customizable from the head to the collar to the buttons to the color of the wand itself.
The narrow tip also makes this vibrator a great toy for partner play, as it leaves plenty of room for other types of simultaneous stimulation. There’s a mode to simulate licking, if an oral sex vibe is what you’re seeking. There are also several speeds and settings so you can zero in on the sensations you desire in the moment. “The Magic Wand is a classic in the world of vibrators, and for good reason, too,” says Mariah Freya, founder of the sexual wellness platform Beducated. There’s a vibrator for every sexual preference, proclivity, and situation — some even simulate oral sex. And using one doesn’t just feel good, it’s actually good for your health.
If you need (or want) a lot of stimulation to get off, a great wand is your best bet, whether it’s rechargeable or plugs into the wall. Bianca Alba, MPH, is a nonbinary sexual-health educator, consultant, and journalist based in Chicago. Bianca was formerly managing editor of a Kinsey Institute blog and has presented academic research on transgender-youth health advocacy, using sex toys as therapeutic tools in clinical practice, and menstrual biohacking. She/they are passionate about normalizing healthy discussions of sexuality in everyday life. The Evolved Tongue Tied is our favorite of the “tongue” vibrators we’ve tested. While they’re not as pinpointed as those from the Lelo Dot, we did find that this vibrator’s flickering tongue (measuring about 1 inch long and 0.25 inches wide at the tip) offers powerful, focused sensations.
